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“K” Is For Kinky

Let’s get kinky! I have been posting a lot of pretty heavy stuff lately, but that’s just stuff that has been on my mind that needed to be said. Today, I am finally going to talk about the “K” of BPK – Kinky.ChokeMe

Now, kinky is a very subjective word. The actual definition says:

involving or given to unusual sexual behavior

But what qualifies as “unusual sexual behavior?” Ask ten people what they consider kinky and you could likely get ten different answers. On top of that, it’s a spectrum which is also subjective. Maybe you think spanking is not okay, but choking is. However, I am going to talk a bit about a few of the reasons I consider myself kinky and how that affects any relationship I may end up in. Hopefully, it may help you consider some things and learn a bit about yourself.

I do not consider myself kinky because I am bi or poly. You can be either of those things without being kinky. I think being bi or poly might allow a person to be more open to new things, but that is certainly not a rule.

Kinky-Quote1A reason I feel that I am a kinky person is due to my desire to be dominated. I want to be with a man who can push me against the wall and kiss me until I lose my wits before throwing me down on the bed, tying me up, and torturing me with pleasure until I’m begging for release. The movies would lead us to believe that is easy to find, but they are wrong.

However, I am perfectly willing and capable to play the dom myself even though I prefer it the other way around. A little light bondage seems like it would be extremely fun. I have yet to be in a relationship with someone who 1) is willing kinky-quoteto try and 2) who I trust enough so I can only assume. There are other aspects, but honestly, I don’t feel like putting my kinks out there for the whole world. I am also not shy, being a bit of an exhibitionist and probably a bit of a voyeur, too, but in the “it’s okay to look” kind of way, not the “it’s creepy because you don’t have consent” kind of way.

When it comes to kinky affecting the relationship, it actually does and doesn’t. In a new potential relationship, I would want them to know up front that I am kinky and would prefer someone who is willing to push some standard boundaries with me. If so, great! If not, great! We didn’t waste each other’s time.

I was dating a guy who I stupidly assumed was as kinky as me. The first time I put us in a kinky situation was a disaster. I basically had myself served up for his pleasure, but he was not dominant, at all. He seemed really uncomfortable and that made the experience really unpleasant for me. He just stood there like:

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It was like he completely forgot what he was supposed to do with a naked female. Thinking back on it, I should have just ended that then and there…yeah, definitely should have done that.

However, if I was in a relationship and there was something I wanted to try that the other person didn’t that is different. If they’re kinky, but just not interested in whatever it was then that is acceptable. Everyone has their limits and some limits are softer than others.

Kink to me is about having a trusting connection with your partner that allows you to try new sexual experiences that can bring you to a new plane of sexual pleasure. What is kink to you?

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